Beyond Distracted
We're Christen and Rachel, two friends who were diagnosed with ADHD as adults. For most of our lives we couldn't figure out why we seemed to struggle more than other people did. But with our diagnoses we had more clarity and explanations for why we do what we do. It turns out we aren't stupid or lazy or "less-than"... we just have ADHD!
Join us as we talk about: all the ways ADHD unknowingly affected us as children, and later as young adults; the coping skills we are learning post-diagnosis and how we are reframing what we think about ourselves; our crazy and hilarious ADHD moments of the week; and the songs we are listening to on repeat (because don't you listen to the same music over and over?) Oh, and we might get a little distracted along the way!
Beyond Distracted
Episode 08: ADHD and Time Blindness
Ever felt like time completely slips through your fingers, especially when you're deep into a project? One minute it's just after breakfast and then suddenly you've missed lunch and it's time to start prepping supper... Oops! ADHDers tend to perceive time a bit differently than neurotypicals, and in this episode we're unpacking the struggles that can result from time blindness and a few ways we try to work with our brains to accomplish what needs to get done.
Article: How Does ADHD Affect Your Time Perception?
2019 Review: Clinical Implications of the Perception of Time in Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
2021 Review: Time Perception is a Focal Symptom of Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder in Adults
Songs on Repeat
• Rachel: The Cornhusker by The Killigans
• Christen: B.O.B. - Bombs Over Baghdad by Outkast
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Hey Rachel, hey Kristen, how are you doing? I'm awesome, yeah, freezing cold.
Speaker 2:I just had the heater on for you.
Speaker 1:No, but it's freezing cold outside, that's valid.
Speaker 2:We're here in Iowa, we're going through like a negative a million winter, horrible snowarms, but we are recording a podcast about ADHD even with that. So we're going to get distracted, but it's going to be a good time, yes, always distracted. So today we're going to get distracted, talking about ADHD and time blindness. And also, to recap for people who have listened to our previous episodes, we have figured out our microphone issue.
Speaker 2:Stupid microphone is stupid, stupid microphone issue and unfortunately we were trying to be too aesthetically pleasing with our microphones and we had them turned a certain way.
Speaker 1:Turns out, these microphones are not omnidirectional. You have to have them pointed a certain way. We did not realize that they are omni.
Speaker 2:They are. They are not omni, they are mono directional. And now, shockingly, our audio is great. I hope you all think it's great now.
Speaker 1:I hope you realize just how frustrated I've been the last few episodes, because it has made me so angry not having good audio.
Speaker 2:I was real concerned that Rachel was going to quit. Rachel, rachel's a great yeah, I know that was. That was a genuine concern, but also just like the fact that I'm the one who gets mad in this relationship of ours. You don't. You're like the happy one, I'm the weird one, but you're the happy, like positive one and you not being happy and positive was a little scary.
Speaker 1:I was legitimately angry most of the time about it.
Speaker 2:It was not good. So, yeah, that has been fixed, and now we get to talk about time blindness, and Rachel is no longer ready to chuck microphones or computers or oh, yes, yeah, it's a good time.
Speaker 1:Blindness here we go Time blindness.
Speaker 2:So most people, I feel like, get distracted every once in a while, just like when people say oh, I feel like I have little bounds of ADHD. Everybody has a little bit of ADHD. But something that a lot of neuro divergent people and ADHD people struggle with on a daily basis, consistent basis, is something called time blindness. Tell me what time blindness is, chris. Time blindness is when you have something going on and you know that you have said thing going on, or you need to do said thing and you mentally make severe note of it and then you just forget it goes away. Or you have to leave in 30 minutes and you're like, great, I'm going to leave in 30 minutes, but guess what, all of a sudden it's been 35 minutes and you haven't left yet and you haven't started getting ready.
Speaker 1:Well, I think, yeah, the definition of time blindness is just not understanding the passage of time. Yes, properly, Correct, right, so I did a little bit of read and I don't know if it's on your notes or something else, but, like we tend to, not, we think that time goes faster or slower, depending on kind of what. We don't have a good perception of time, correct. I have a terrible perception of depth when I'm driving, which is not related, but the words like the perception, depth perception, came to my brain because you know that was like the squirrel, so that made sense.
Speaker 2:But the reason from the lovely, trusty source of psych central that we will make sure to note for this episode is that the notes that it has is first of all when the brain is trying to tell time and or prep for time. It is using three different things. Would you like to guess what these three different things are?
Speaker 1:I have no idea at the clock on the wall?
Speaker 2:Yeah, right, for sure. No, but your brain is using memory, attention and dopamine to accurately predict time.
Speaker 1:Interesting memory Memory Like so long something happened last time to do a task.
Speaker 2:How long it takes to say you know, like I would. It's great that you brought up the weather. When I go to walk my dogs in the summer, it takes me five seconds to get ready to take them out. All I have to do is slip on a pair of shoes and I walk outside. In the winter, it takes me a million years, 10, 5, 10 minutes to get ready to go outside, because I have to lace up my boots, I have to put on all my layers, I have to put on my hat, I have to put on my gloves.
Speaker 1:You should add in two kids to that, because it makes it even more fun. That's why I don't have two kids. It's horrible.
Speaker 2:And so you just how you know how to do things, and then also just attention, so the cues that we have of just, I think, like the actual, like almost internal counting that we have so attention to that, and then dopamine, and so all of these things help our brains that darn dopamine yeah well it's always a problem.
Speaker 2:And ADHD brains. We have problems with all three of these things. So is it shocking to anyone that we have time blindness issues? Absolutely no. But it's again, why we like to talk about these things is that we can now also have a reason as to why we struggle with these things and it makes it less not less frustrating, but well honestly less frustrating, and it gives us reasons of how we can cope with it but also not feel so like go into those like mental and emotional spirals about it as well. So the other thing that ADHD people also struggle with probably this lovely article that we have is trouble with a circadian rhythm or an internal clock based on the Earth's rotation. So you know some, you know people are like oh, mercury is in retrograde. We just are completely always screwed when it comes to the Earth rotating in our time blindness.
Speaker 1:That's interesting, it's I don't. I don't understand how that even is a thing.
Speaker 2:I mean when, like reading, I'm like, okay, that makes sense, Because you know, we don't naturally sense the rising and setting of the sun, which I mean us being hyper focused or hyper fixated on things. Okay, of course, we're not paying attention to whatever is happening because we're hyper focused.
Speaker 1:I don't notice a lot of things when I'm hyper focused.
Speaker 2:You don't hear things, you don't see things. Time isn't real. It all makes sense. Time is never real Time is never real.
Speaker 2:I said that on a professional call the other day and, thank God, the person laughed. But that was Beth. Somehow over here's this. I did that and it was fine, shout out to my boss. But then, of course, this all results in the fact that we struggle to see or understand how much we intend to do, or trying to be punctual or, you know, trying to properly time manage projects, because we're just all over the place. Yeah, and it makes sense, and I also am, as we're recording this, realizing I as a child, was very hyper fixated on having a watch. I had a digital watch that I was ridiculously obsessed with as a kid and it upset me that I didn't ever know what time it was. Yes, and so I always had this digital watch and I didn't like that. My school clocks were always wrong, like based on what classroom you were in, oh, they were different.
Speaker 2:Because they were different because you know they weren't digital clocks, they weren't synced in any way.
Speaker 1:Was it the atomic clock? Yes, that was, like all the phones are set to Basically, yeah.
Speaker 2:And then the other thing the two things with that as well is that so the clocks were always wrong. And then once we were in junior high, high school, we only had a three minute passing period. That's hard and it was so short and, as I mean, I don't want to say like as a woman, but like as a young woman like I, if I was like, well, I have to go to the bathroom, I would, and my school was very strict about, you know, being on time to classes, also depending on like the teacher you had, that I was like I would genuinely run through the halls and like I could watch my watch to see how much time I had, and I could also be ready to leave a classroom because I knew when the bell was gonna ring. Do you know?
Speaker 1:that on Apple Watches you can have them buzz every 15 minutes to help you track the passage of time. Ooh your face. I love your face right now. Yes, you can. It's a setting on there that every 15 minutes it'll buzz and then at the top of the hour it'll buzz like twice to let you, to kind of help keep you aware of the passage of time. Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, guess what I'm gonna be having to help me with later. That's amazing.
Speaker 1:Because it's true, like we get so focused and that's I think we're gonna talk about hyper fixation next week, right, but disoriented.
Speaker 2:What I feel like. I get disoriented like with time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, I think we just get so focused on one thing that we're like you said, we're not paying attention to anything else, and I think that that is one of the misconceptions about ADHD is that we have no focus. We have an, you know, because it's like attention deficit, whatever. Well, we don't have a deficit of attention, we just can't regulate our attention, and so while someone else is, you know, able to just sense how much time has passed in a reasonable guess, like we can't, and I, you know, I find myself looking at our clock all the time too. And, funny story, just like an hour ago I was. So my son right now is completely obsessed with clocks. Right now he he said my husband, corey, asked him if he wanted to make cookies.
Speaker 2:Do you want to tell them how old he is or no?
Speaker 1:He's four and a half. Okay, for context of why he's obsessed with time yeah, yeah he. Corey asked him if he wanted to help make cookies and he said no, I'm gonna go sit and watch my clock until it's two o'clock and it was like 1.35. And I think it's because Interesting Two o'clock had been kind of the cutoff of when they could play video games and we were allowing video games during the week which were not a long story. So I think that's why he was sort of lashed onto the two. But literally he went into his room and stared at his clock for 25 minutes.
Speaker 2:I mean go kiddo, I'm okay with that.
Speaker 1:So earlier at lunch today we were teaching him kind of how to read a regular clock like an analog clock, because the one in his room is like one of those red, like green like ones and so it is digital. So I was teaching him how to do the regular clock and I took it down to explain it to him. And then somebody asked me a question and I instinctively looked at the clock and it wasn't even there because I had an eight in that split second. I forgot that I had taken it down. But it's like that muscle memory of looking at the clock every. Yeah, I resonate with that.
Speaker 2:Yes, so this psych central? Apparently they pulled again studies and there are two different studies over 2019 and 2021. I actually think that's very interesting because I think any study prior to 2020 and the I feel like when time officially stopped is interesting, and the fact that they got the same results in both 2019 and 2021 is interesting. But they compared the perceptions and abilities of participants with ADHD to a control group and they found that ADHD people have challenges in the following areas. All of these will sound very familiar Estimating the passage of time, assessing how long a task will take, yup Check Retroactively, assessing how much time was spent on a task yes, definitely, which we haven't covered.
Speaker 2:But, like Chase will be like what have you been doing? And I'm like, oh, it's just like for a little bit, and he's like it's been the whole day. Yeah, I know, I okay. So, literally, as we were recording, I'm not like, I'm not jumping time in any way, shape or form. I was on the phone with my friend Anna Shout out Anna for three hours today before this, before this, literally, genuinely, before I unlocked the door for you, I had been on the phone with her for three hours. That's why you didn't reply to my text message. That's why I didn't. But in fairness, I don't know if I told you this yet now, but we have your live reaction. It is Chase, you and Anna that are pinned on the top of my text messages. Oh yeah, so You're in my top ones too.
Speaker 1:Yeah, but you have like 10. It's nine because it's three. It's like rows of three, just so you know.
Speaker 2:So no, it can't be two you, anna and Chase, that are my pinned top three humans. So but yeah, no, in it like it always upsets, I mean I think it upsets a lot of people but, and it's okay if it does. But I mean Anna and I can talk about anything and everything, but we also do it as we're doing things and it helps so much because I knew we're gonna be recording. I like to look like a semblance of a human. I had to shower, I did not want to shower and I had to wash my hair and I did not want to do that. And I'm able to do with Anna on the phone we are not FaceTiming, we are genuinely on the phone and she just like doesn't ask questions, she's just like In the shower.
Speaker 1:Yeah, nice, I mean we both do it, cause like she'll be like Were you in the shower. I think she made it clear she was in the shower.
Speaker 2:My other favorite one is when they're hungover in parks and rec, and she's like how are you? And he's like I ran a 5K. She's like what? And he goes no, I threw up in the shower, I haven't watched that show?
Speaker 1:Oh my God.
Speaker 2:It's one of the funniest episodes, oh.
Speaker 1:God, that line always kills me.
Speaker 2:But anyways. So assessing how much time was actually spent on a task, planning in preparation for future tasks Ugh the worst, yeah. And then experiencing time passing more quickly than it actually does, oh yeah, and also probably why I'm sure we hate driving and going places that it takes a long time to get there Cause we're like, wow, this is so fricking boring, yeah, or just anything. Just, the dopamine is so low when you're having to wait for something and then we get ornery and cranky. Yes, we do. That's what I'm going to blame it on, but it's so.
Speaker 1:I have heard that some helpful things to do for this is like to legitimately track how long tasks take, or like if you have a to-do list, you can write down how long you think the task is going to take, and then use a timer and do the task and then write down in your notebook how long that task actually took, so that in the future you can look back and say, oh, I don't want to do the dishes because it's going to take me two hours to load the dishwasher, when in reality it takes 20 minutes. Yes, yes. And then you have hard data to help motivate your brain, like, okay, this is actually not going to take as long as I think it's going to take, and I can do it, I think the other thing as well that is aligned with that.
Speaker 2:That I've also done for myself, and sometimes I do it better than other times. But especially if we have that, one thing that we're putting off, like piles or mail me, is do it for five minutes, 10 minutes Instead of timer of almost. You just need to do this for 10 minutes and then you can stop and most of the time you either get it done or that initial inertia to get going. Yes, you're like, oh, okay, it's actually not as horrible as I thought it was, it's almost done, I'm going to complete it. And then you feel the ability to complete it and, or tying it in, you also feel like it's a little game of like, oh, can I get this task done in less than five minutes? And you give yourself a little trigger of dopamine in that way.
Speaker 1:Oh, and I think a lot of times it still is like that getting started. That's the problem. And when we think it's going to take 35 minutes to do a task and we say, okay, we're only going to do it for five minutes, that to our brains feels so much more manageable. But then once we're doing it, usually we can keep going, because it's the transitions that are hard, I think, for us. We need to do an episode on transitions.
Speaker 2:We will definitely do an episode on transition. So they also said that the brain is different and it affects the distortion of time, including blocked brain connections through the central nervous system which is how?
Speaker 1:Wait, this is like physical differences in our brain. Yes, physical differences, okay.
Speaker 2:Since our central nervous system is blocked, which is how time is perceived, we have an altered frontal lobe activity, which again affects the ability to estimate time, and then differences in the prefrontal cortex and pathways that control dopamine neurotransmitters. And, again shocking, no one helps, signal, pleasures and sustains motivation.
Speaker 1:I think that last one is how like most ADHD medicines work. Is it kind of fixes that one? But they have actually found physical differences in brains of ADHD people and non and I think so many people and I honestly I was one of these people like oh, everyone's.
Speaker 2:A little ADHD.
Speaker 1:No, just like everyone's being diagnosed with ADHD these days and it's not real. Kids are just. They're not meant to be in a classroom, they need to be out running around, that kind of thing. Which I mean I do still agree with those things, but like there are so many people who are quick to dismiss it as not a real thing. But there are physical, like visual, differences in the brains of ADHD people, correct it is a legitimate thing, it is.
Speaker 2:It's similar to me and I feel like not that these are the same thing.
Speaker 2:But I'm talking in terms of physical differences of the brain, of the fact that when you discuss people who have PTSD and, oops, me, I have PTSD, we'll go into that later but one of the things that we talked about in couples counseling when I was really struggling with my PTSD and Chase, my husband, was trying to understand my PTSD and there would be times Chase would I mean, he's an engineer, he's logical, he obviously has a lot of empathy, but still trying to understand to him to a certain level it was hard and I very vividly remember there was a time God bless Jake, he was our first couple's therapist and he at one point like set a picture on in front of Chase and he was like this is Kristen's brain when she is having A moment, an episode, whatever you want to call it, and she cannot rationally think and you cannot hold her to rational thinking.
Speaker 2:You need to help bring her out of that and it's not an excuse for whatever, because obviously, like I do need to get better, I do need to take accountability for my actions, but he's like you can't expect her to fix it, but once she does come down from that like she should be better, and it's those kinds of things that I also think about, like with this. I mean, it's the same thing of. You can't expect somebody who has ADHD to be able to like manage everything without certain assistance and medications and coping skills set in place, and then it's just like you can't expect someone in a wheelchair to climb a flight of stairs without some sort of assistance, right and it, but the thing is okay.
Speaker 1:So I was down a rabbit hole this past week, shocking about brains actually, and like CTE and that kind of thing. And so the thing about disorders of the brain like what you know, like mental, mental illness and stuff is that it's invisible. People can't see. Oh, you have a cast on your arm. Let me help you with that. The brain is invisible to us, and so it's easy to dismiss it as either not real or not that bad. Why, why are you struggling? Why can't you function like a normal person? And that's that's something that I've had to come to terms with too, because I used to think that way. I clearly I was struggling, but it was like I should be able to focus like every or function like everyone else and when, in reality, there are actual physical differences in my brain, in your brain, that cause us to behave differently, correct?
Speaker 2:And it and it's interesting because it impacts so much. But it also like, I think, sometimes when people are like, oh well, it's going to impact X, Y, Z in this big way, and people, let's say they accept it, they're like, okay, that's fine, yeah, it makes sense, but then then other ways, when it's like a smaller thing, they're like are you sure you're just not, like you can't just like try harder, try harder. And maybe you'll allow me to say this get your shit together. Like yeah, and it's like no, no, I'm trying and it's just it's not happening and it's it's, it's hard and it's the same thing. I think, like when I was in college, and I think how I survived college honestly, was that I I know I've talked about it before, but I so heavily relied on my Google calendar that if it was not on my Google calendar even today, but like even back then, that's how I coped. Yes Was my life, was so time blocked that everything existed in those time blocks.
Speaker 1:Yes To a T, yes, and that's how it functions, because otherwise we don't remember those things.
Speaker 2:Yeah, no and staying busy Kristin. Busy Kristin can get a lot of stuff done because I never stopped moving. I never stopped moving and so I was able to accomplish a lot but also the stress that that put on my body. And then also when I finally graduated and got my masters and graduated and had a I don't want to say real person job, but like a nine to five job, eight to five, whatever and I remember sitting at home and being like I'm forgetting something. I'm forgetting something. The anxiety that came afterwards, when I had that final like low, was horrible. It was a like a withdrawal, because I was like what am I supposed to do with myself? Yeah, I can't, I can't. I should be doing something, because that's what I had been doing for the last 10 years.
Speaker 1:I would just like to point out how impressive it is that you not only graduated college but then you got a masters with ADHD that was undiagnosed, like that's huge, because that, like I look back on my college experience and I wonder how much better my college experience would have been had I known cause I think even just knowing about how our brain functions is helpful. But then also, if I had been medicated because I did not function in college well when it came to like academics and stuff, I mean the social aspect was awesome, right, but it's just I think I would have been able to accomplish a whole lot more Right. And so and there have been doctors I don't know if this was you that told me someone else said, like you can't have ADHD because you have, like a master's in engineering.
Speaker 2:I think it was in engineering somebody said that oh yeah, I would have been somebody else, social media or something.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know. It's like a doctor told them that and it's like Heavy eye rolling for those.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's just, it's so. The disrespect is, the audacity is just, it's insane. I also again with we've talked about this before but the expectations of men and women, it's one of those things too, and I'm not trying to discount any men per se, but, like, if they're forgetful of something, everyone's like, oh yeah, he forgot that. If, like, a woman or a young girl forget something, they're like what are you doing? Why didn't you forget this? Like, why did why? I feel like the pressure is so much harsher on women, even from a young age, that they should have those things under control, and so when we don't, we get coping mechanisms Way fricking faster. Yeah.
Speaker 1:And well, I think, moms versus dads too, moms versus dads.
Speaker 2:And you know, oh, you forgot your kid's birthday. Oh well, of course you did, because you're a dad and it's like no, that's not normal, like we've gone off track here.
Speaker 1:Well, not necessarily, but yeah yeah, we've gotten a little distracted. But yeah, so the time that it takes Beyond, distracted Beyond distracted the time that it takes to do a task.
Speaker 2:A lot of times we again, just like we said, we think it's gonna take longer or shorter than it does. Oh my God. So actually we had prepped this episode. We were gonna record last week, we were having issues, all of that. I don't know if you remember this. This can be my ADHD moment of the week actually. Oh, I very duvety believe we're gonna have dinner together for our families and I said, oh, it's just gonna take five minutes to cook the meat.
Speaker 2:And I knew you immediately were like I mean not mean, but you were like no, you were like Kristen, absolutely not. And I was like why? I was like it's gonna take five minutes to make the meat and you were like it will not take five minutes and I was like why?
Speaker 1:And the reason I know this is because you know how many times I've made that mistake, because I have a husband who is farm kid and grew up and supper was at a specific time Like a six-star, and it's not dinner, it's supper. It is supper.
Speaker 2:That's more of like my husband's family I think it's the Mid-Western farm family. I don't know.
Speaker 1:Yeah anyway. So, like if it's six-o too, he's like what are we doing for supper? And so I have learned to really plan and think about how much time it takes to make to like Brown hamburger. So, and then you were like oh we. Only. I said how much meat do you have? Cause we're having tacos, and you're like one pound and we were gonna have seven people and I was like that's not enough. Yeah.
Speaker 2:I cannot make this up. The last point is to direct it with side quests Side quests.
Speaker 1:Those are the best Side quests yeah.
Speaker 1:That's kind of how I there was something I don't know if it was for the hyper fixate, I don't know. You sent me something about like being distracted when we're like focused on cleaning or something. I don't know where this came from, but my first thought was, like okay, I usually don't get angry when I'm interrupted from cleaning, because usually it's just like a whole mess of side quests. Like, oh, I'm gonna start doing this, but now this has to go back to this room and then I'm going to put that thing away. Oh, but this needs to be clean right here, and so that's just. Like I'm I never, I clean a lot or for a long time and nothing ever. Like it's 100% clean because I'm bouncing between all the rooms and all of the places.
Speaker 2:It's not segmented in a certain way? Yes, no completely, but I also use.
Speaker 1:I feel like I also use side quests to get things done for real, like if I have to, if I have something that I'm procrastinating because I don't want to do it, that's how I actually get other things done. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah, like I don't want to do the thing that I really need to do, so I'm going to do these other things.
Speaker 2:And I'm still going to be quote, unquote, productive, while also actively avoiding this other thing. Yes, yeah.
Speaker 1:Oh, completely, and so you have to, just kind of like, keep creating side quests. I don't know.
Speaker 2:It's kind of like a train In a constructive manner. Yeah, I don't know how to explain that very well, I understand what you're saying if that helps.
Speaker 1:But anyways, that is our lovely time blindness Wait so what was my oh my ADHD moment of the week? This week is actually a win, oh, yeah, because.
Speaker 1:I feel like sometimes it's very related to ADHD, though is I actually went to the thrift store and dropped off the boxes that have been driving around in my trunk forever. Wow, it's like it was just such a releasing feeling. Yes, Because I was. Not only was I in the right place at the right time, but I remembered at the right time, you know, it was just like all the things kind of came together. I didn't actually make a specific trip because I had been carrying these around in my trunk. It's the worst Fun fact. I went to the grocery store a couple weeks ago and had a whole cart of groceries and nowhere to put them because I had all these. I forgot that I had all these boxes. Was that when I was with you? No, no, that was a different time, I think. But yeah, and so I knew I was gonna be over in that area, and so I was like, okay, I need to remember, I need to remember, I need to remember. And I did, and I got them dropped off.
Speaker 2:I did this will be. It's not my ADHD moment of the week. It'll be my win, hopefully later. But I have two things I severely need to do that I've been avoiding.
Speaker 1:So and they're not hard. Can I help you with those?
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's actually the coals drop off for the mic that was broken, and then the other one is going to the library. Um, and then my favorite thing that made my life easier was the fact that the library does reminder emails. That's so great. I didn't realize that they did that, and it's. I mean, I don't know why. I was shocked when I got a reminder email, but I was like, oh my gosh, that's so nice.
Speaker 1:Guess what else you didn't realize about the library.
Speaker 2:But that's a bad thing, because now I don't have the same urgency to return them.
Speaker 1:Our libraries went fine free in 2020. I'm gonna have to give them a $10 donation.
Speaker 2:I feel so bad, because that's the other thing I need to do is I need to return those books, and they're they're not. I mean, they're not super late, but they're like, oh, trust me They'll want.
Speaker 1:oh, four days is nothing they want, and I know because, okay, I once had to pay like a 30 dollar fine to the library one time because I didn't return a book, but uh, my brain stopped working for a second. So with fines, did you know that this is a side quest? From the side quest, the fines don't actually go directly to the library. Where do they go? They go into, like, the city budget.
Speaker 2:Oh, that's horse crap. I feel like I should be allowed one swear word an episode and I've already used it.
Speaker 1:I already used it.
Speaker 2:I will loudly. That's like when I was in your, uh, your entryway yesterday and I was so mad about something and I yelled gosh, darn it super loud in my entryway. Yeah, yesterday, oh yeah, and I yelled gosh.
Speaker 1:I got it, Guys. We've really tried to keep this PG, but it's hard for christen.
Speaker 2:It's so hard for christen Everything's done really well, I Anyway.
Speaker 1:So I because I know this, because I had a huge fine for the library, and I was like well, at least it's going to a good cause. And she was like no, actually, we don't see this directly. And I was like what that makes?
Speaker 1:me end of the year when we get like Cory's bonus a lot of times will donate money to the library, because that's the library a lot Anyway. So back to the late fee thing. They I know it's like they uh, they will send you an email when it's like very Overdue and they're about to charge you for the actual book because you haven't returned the book. But they still give you a grace period and that takes like four weeks.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, and also in my defense, we did have Four. We're in the midst of, uh, two of three snow storms right now, and we also had one last week too. Yeah, and if anybody can time that out as to when we're recording, when this gets released, but I that was, the books were due this past week and then I haven't left the house. I know it's horrible, actually it's been great, but I mean sort of Um, so yeah, and then do you have any songs on repeat right now?
Speaker 1:Well, I have to say my favorite thing first. Oh, I'm so sorry, which Is kind of just whatever, but uh, I was thinking last night how great the dishwasher is, because my best friend, katie, shout out Katie, she does not have a dishwasher, and I would. I would never, we would not have clean dishes so.
Speaker 1:I, I did my. It took me like less than 10 minutes to load the dishwasher last night at like 11 20 because. But future me was so happy that past me did it. So do your dishes every day. Run the dishwasher even if it's not full.
Speaker 2:Yes, and then pro tip. Was it your? What was your song for the week?
Speaker 1:So my song for the week is very obscure. I'm here for it, um. But to all of my friends in Nebraska, you might recognize this one. I don't know. Uh, my kids are super obsessed with this song. It's called the cornhusker, by A group called the killigans. I know nothing about them except for that they are like an irish sounding band and it's a song about Nebraska football. So that's adorable.
Speaker 2:That's really cute. Yeah, that's, that's amazing. Uh, mine is a 1000 throwback. It is from outcast. God bless, outcast Um, but I forgot they existed, but it was. So here's also where mine like millennialness hits is the song is called bo b, but I like, when I was thinking about this and I wrote this down initially when I saw bo b, I was thinking of the artist bo b and I was confused. I don't know if you know who that is. No, he's a different artist. I also like Um, but outcast it's. It's. The song is called bombs over bag dad and it's like a really catchy song and I remember when I stumbled across it I was like, oh, I love this song and then I just Played it on repeat.
Speaker 1:I think I only know hey, yeah, by outcast.
Speaker 2:Um, also for fun, fun fact. So that song came out. Which song? Hey, yeah, like when it came out on the uh cd album physically, I listened to that song. I think it was for four hours straight on repeat. I, I cannot make that up. Oh gee, baby christin, listen to that song. Every single word, I could spit it. Every single word.
Speaker 1:It was yeah, so that's a good time because the old school cd players, you can just repeat one track. Yeah, you could.
Speaker 2:It was, yeah, it was bad. So that is our lovely adhd and time blindness. We've not had audio issues, it's just, it's so much easier to do this knock on wood, though, because we haven't actually really listened back to it. Yet Knock on wood, you'll get mad at me.
Speaker 1:It's true, if we knock on our table right here, it makes noise in both of the microphones. Okay, we're trying really hard, guys. Okay, I love you, rachel, I love you too, okay.
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