Beyond Distracted
We're Christen and Rachel, two friends who were diagnosed with ADHD as adults. For most of our lives we couldn't figure out why we seemed to struggle more than other people did. But with our diagnoses we had more clarity and explanations for why we do what we do. It turns out we aren't stupid or lazy or "less-than"... we just have ADHD!
Join us as we talk about: all the ways ADHD unknowingly affected us as children, and later as young adults; the coping skills we are learning post-diagnosis and how we are reframing what we think about ourselves; our crazy and hilarious ADHD moments of the week; and the songs we are listening to on repeat (because don't you listen to the same music over and over?) Oh, and we might get a little distracted along the way!
Beyond Distracted
Episode 06: ADHD and the Six Horsemen
Ever found yourself completely frustrated from being interrupted during a hyperfocus, or gripped with anxiety over an afternoon appointment? You're not alone! In this episode we explore the 'Six Horsemen of ADHD' and how they resonate with those of us living with ADHD. We dive into the nitty-gritty of daily struggles, from the paralyzing array of meal choices to the looming cloud of ambiguous deadlines. So plug in, settle down, and join us for a journey through the trials and triumphs of living with ADHD!
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Hey guys, it's Kristen from Beyond Distracted. You'll hear us talk about some audio issues we have and you will hear the fact that my microphone is not working well. Thank you so much for your patience and enjoy the episode.
Speaker 2:Hey Kristen.
Speaker 1:Hi Rachel. How are you? I have a slight headache. How are you? Do you have a?
Speaker 2:headache. It has been interesting getting this podcast recorded, guys.
Speaker 1:We're still learning Our troubleshooting. Honestly, I'm quite proud of us. We're doing great this morning, but our sound is good and it's recording correct. It is recording Okay. God bless my friends. Hello friends, we missed you. I'm actually really excited to be recording. Yeah, it's you. Yeah, we're going to talk about the six horsemen of ADHD. So a lovely human, like, of course, the algorithm on the clock app of the TikTok has fed me ADHD content and there was a phenomenal TikTok by a woman named Cherry ADHD mom on December 20th of the year of our lord, 2023.
Speaker 1:Why do you say it that way? I don't know. It's kind of like women. I say the target? Oh, it's just stupid. But she had the six horsemen of ADHD and I was laughing hysterically. I think I immediately sent it to you. So I want to talk about that, because this is our sixth episode. So why not? Yay, yay, I'm so proud of us. Okay, so the six horsemen of ADHD, and I'm going to have you decide if they are actually horsemen or not.
Speaker 2:I don't understand that phrase. Can you explain? What is a horseman? Horseman is like it's the thing that's going to take you out.
Speaker 1:It's going to get me, oh, it's going to get me, it's going to get you, okay. So horsemen is already going to be a get you. So it's fine, we're doing great. The first one is afternoon appointments. Oh, I hate that.
Speaker 2:I hate that. Yeah, it's not good. It's not good. I've gotten a little bit better since I started medication. Honestly, but, and just like being aware that, oh, I actually can, but as it gets closer, like I can't do anything the hour or two before You're paralyzed, because I'm like if I get to doing something I'm going to, I'm going to completely forget what time it is and miss my appointment. Yeah, so then I'm just sitting around and actually I have a friend I would shout out her name but I don't want to embarrass her, but she is always awkward, early to things and I think it's because of this reason.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like she doesn't want to be late. Maybe I'm, maybe this is wrong, but this is my interpretation is like she doesn't want to be late and so she's just always. She's always. She calls it awkward early. She's like I'm like an hour early for things because otherwise that would stress me out personally.
Speaker 1:But as long as I knew the person, it would be fine.
Speaker 2:But well, she just would. So she actually did weddings with me, and so she would just sit in her car in the parking lot where we were supposed to meet and be like I'm just hanging out here. And then I come like one minute before we're supposed to start.
Speaker 1:I, everyone, everyone has their timing. I've gotten a little bit better with timing. But what was it? The other day I had a. I had an afternoon appointment. It was on my Google calendar. You know, we should have been quote, unquote, good for everything. And then, you know, I had gotten all the reminders, I had confirmed all the reminders and then, all of a sudden, my person texted me and she was like hey, you can come early if you want. And I was like not ready.
Speaker 1:I like for some reason just left my brain and I was like butch, butch, butch and I was like I'm on my way. So it was. I was really happy she messaged me. So number two designing on meals or food.
Speaker 2:All the worst.
Speaker 1:Absolutely.
Speaker 2:You can ask my husband I I hate to cook, but more so is I hate to choose what we're going to make.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I don't like to make things in advance, like meal plans in advance, because I feel like I can't commit to it and then be like I don't know. Yes, I'm going to have spaghetti this night, even though I don't feel like spaghetti this night.
Speaker 1:So that's hard for me, dinners I'm generally okay with, as long as I have them pre set up in my brain, like if I can have two or three to pick from, I'll, like I don't feel as trapped from it. Yes, I think that's the key is having options, yeah, but not too many options, okay. So, yeah, no, it's prepping food and picking food is horrible. I am generally found to be eating or drinking a protein shake, fruit and leftovers for breakfast and lunch, because everything else is terrible. Although I did hear a good trick, though, for for some people who really struggle with breakfast, especially if you're medicated, is the fact that some people feel like they have to eat breakfast to food and they don't like breakfast food, and the fact that you can really eat anything you want, Like if you want to have a sandwich for breakfast, you can.
Speaker 2:Well, when I was in high school no college someone that my roommate knew was like she would eat steaks for breakfast in the morning and it's like, mostly because of the protein. And I'm the kind of person I cannot have carbs in the morning for breakfast because I crash and also makes my stomach hurt. So we every morning we have eggs for breakfast and that's it's usually just eggs and a piece of toast, which is some carbs, right, but we have the protein from the eggs and so if I don't have something like that, I really kind of struggle. So we just eat the same thing every morning for breakfast. That's valid. Sometimes you have oatmeal. That's usually if we don't have any eggs.
Speaker 1:Oh, amazing. Kind of the fallback Amazing, yeah, yes, the third one is when someone interrupts you during a hyper focus moment and you kind of lose it. Yeah, that's a bad one too yeah. So she specifically said hyper focus, cleaning or organizing. I definitely can feel this If I get. I don't want to say it's raging like raging anxiety, but like it's not good and I can't form words. I'm just like I'm so hyper focused I cannot make words come out of my mouth.
Speaker 2:I don't usually feel that way when I'm cleaning, because, let's be real, cleaning is not something that I do very often and I'm usually, when I'm cleaning, I'm like bouncing from one thing to another anyway. So it's not. But if I am researching something or trying to get something done on the computer, or I'm reading something or planning something, those are the moments where I really struggle because my brain, it has to pivot to address whoever is interrupting me and then it's like all of a sudden, all of that momentum and whatever is lost and it is so much harder to get back into what I was doing.
Speaker 1:It's like you're on the interstate and you go from like sixth year to first year. Yeah, and you're just one. It was a horrible transition. Yeah, and two. You're all of a sudden just like, mhmm, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2:It's not a good time.
Speaker 1:Don't mean to pick on you, this was in hers, but the fourth one is dishes.
Speaker 2:Dishes are the bane of my existence. That's why I don't do them.
Speaker 1:I hate dishes. I no, I don't do dishes.
Speaker 2:I think I mentioned in a previous episode about how hard dishes have always been for me and I've gotten to the point. My tips for dishes cause I feel like it is something that I have sort of I've not conquered that mountain, but I have gotten a lot. Better is run your dishwasher every day, no matter how much is in it. Mm-hmm, that's a good one, and I always I've gotten into a rhythm where I always run it at night. This is why sometimes in our podcast You'll hear my phone go off at 9 15, because we're often recording in the evenings, but 9 15 my phone reminds me to start the dishwasher and so I run it overnight and then in the morning or Afternoon, if I'm being honest, yeah, I will empty the dishwasher and then it'll be ready.
Speaker 2:If I'm really on the ball with things, I'll empty it first thing in the morning at breakfast, before I even start cooking breakfast. So that's done and then I can put things in throughout the day as I feel like it, and then it's not so overwhelming at night. But just the other day our exchange daughter I was complaining oh, I don't want to do the dishes. She's like just leave it for the morning, and I know that future me.
Speaker 2:It's gonna be so mad? Yes, because then I'll have to run it during the day and that throws off the whole system, because then our dishwasher Takes forever. It's a really long cycle and if we do a short cycle it doesn't actually, and you have five people and we have five people and our dishes are so extremely hot. What?
Speaker 1:even when it's done. Yeah, it's, it's take them out.
Speaker 2:No, and so I have to run it at night or else, or else, if I run it during the day, then I can't do it again until, like the next day, mm-hmm, just throw it off the whole cycle.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's I. There was something I can't remember when it was, but it was. I mean it could be used for any of these, honestly, but it was. It was a note to kind of like help motivate yourself and it was something about try and do one or two things a day that future you will be happy for Mm-hmm. And then when it's done and you're like, wow, that's complete, or X happens the you know the next day, the next week, whatever, you're like, wow, thank you past me and you can give yourself that like purposeful, mindful pad on the back. Because, I'm sorry, we need that, the ADHD, neurodivergent humans. We need the pad on the back, we need the motivation because our brains don't naturally have it and it sucks and encouragement and encouragement.
Speaker 1:Recognition yes and so it's like if you can give your past self that recognition of wow, that was so great that we did that, it helps you have that like more natural momentum throughout things.
Speaker 2:I am having a thought just now what is? I wonder if that is why ADHD people and maybe this is just an assumption, but like I know, I'm a super people pleaser.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I wonder if that's part of it, because when we make people happy, we get a rush of dopamine and we get like a recognition and we crave that because our brain isn't getting enough of it normally. And I wonder if that's partly where that comes from.
Speaker 1:I honestly that wouldn't shock me. That's a really good point. Honestly, I don't know, because I there's not. Like when I make somebody happy, like it is, yeah, like it's so it's, obviously I have to like them first, I don't.
Speaker 2:But it's, it's good to say on a podcast where we're hoping lots of people.
Speaker 1:Although I would say I would like all of our listeners, if you're listening. I like them and you know, anybody that I've like said like hey, listen our podcast. I definitely like them as human beings.
Speaker 2:Um but.
Speaker 1:I mean that's I also I feel like my circle Small. Yeah, yeah, purposefully. But I mean even we had a holiday party not we, but we went to a holiday party and it's not something that like we purposely should have been invited to for the last three years. So I mean now we're a staple, but in the past we weren't a staple and so I always would get the host like a bottle of wine or a gift or whatever. And this last time I remember it was either the first or second holiday party Um, they had A drink and it was with this specific liquor, and so this past time I got it and I was like, okay, this is gonna be like the gift. And I gave it to her and she was like, how did you remember this? And I was like it made you really happy also, it tasted really good.
Speaker 1:Um, and she was like that's, that's so great, like thank you so much. It was, uh, saint Bernay, saint Germain's Elderflower liquor thing, interesting, yeah, it's, it's a very like niche thing, um, and she was really happy about it. It made me happy. So, okay, fifth thing Definitely horrible, um, when there are no deadlines oh, no, no, I apologize, deadlines that are weeks or months away.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah those are ignored. Those are yeah. I don't feel like that's actually they're not ignored, they're stressed about, but not anything.
Speaker 1:Nothing is done. They just suck energy. Yes, suck is the word for this. Blackest, that's PG. Enough, it's fine, it's. I don't know. When something is that far away, I I probably need help Managing, especially if it's something big. I have to make myself mini deadlines, yes, and then no, not even make mini deadlines. I need to give myself mini like treats To like, like do the things.
Speaker 2:That doesn't work for me, because I just take the treat, not do the thing. Oh, I have zero self-control. I'm like my dog.
Speaker 1:She's so food motivated she yeah, it's why you and Millie are together. The the universe stuck you together.
Speaker 2:That's funny but like, really, I can't even self-impose deadlines. I am not. They don't work for me because I know that I can just say nah, whatever.
Speaker 1:So something that Chase and I implemented in our marriage. I don't know if it came from counseling or not, but it was from. It was a system that we set up that we will say, hey, can you do this? So if you're Chase, I'd say like, hey, chase, can you get this done? And he'll say, okay, he'll either create a deadline or he'll say when would you like it done by? And I'll say tonight, tomorrow, this weekend, whatever, and then, like that, you agree to it. And that's something that's really helpful for me is because then I mean, it's not something that's just me, it's with another person, but that helps a lot. So we just got back from a bunch of trips. I'm always getting back from trips. I have a trip to plan for right now, but it's fine. And he said hey, can you make sure to unpack your suitcase by this weekend?
Speaker 1:And I was like yeah, I can do that because it's just all over the closet right now and I'm just like, okay, it's fine.
Speaker 2:So where I struggled with that, though, is like I did my photography business and a lot of the things, and actually this might be the next one that you go into but, a lot of the things.
Speaker 2:The deadlines weren't very specific and they were things that I needed to do, like, oh, I want to make these changes to my website or whatever, and I had. It wasn't like there was another person, you know, because I'm like you with my suitcase. It just sits on the floor for months and actual months because I did terrible. And so then my husband, corey, right, he's like, could you deal with this? Right, but no one. There's not really anyone else. When you're a solo business owner, there's no one else to be like, hey, can you get this done by this certain date? It's all internal and that kind of thing doesn't I just ignore that.
Speaker 1:It's meaningless to me, that is the sixth one I will let the cat out of the bag on that one it is projects with no deadlines. So I think the trick with things that are weeks and months away is setting up many deadlines or assistance and then with no deadlines. That's a lot of assistance and I think I mean, I don't you have to make a deadline with someone, with someone to hold you accountable, an accountability partner.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Because I mean, and I honestly think it's almost kind of shocking, because I mean I think there's like one other ADHD podcast out there. I think you know there's a couple of other neurodative version podcasts out there, but I honestly don't know. I mean I wouldn't be able to do this by myself. I don't know this podcast Would you be able to do?
Speaker 2:this by yourself. No, I have wanted to give up about 10 times already, yeah, I mean. And it's like there are moments where I'm secretly hoping like, oh, we have to record, and I hope that she doesn't want to record today because I don't want to record today. But then you're like, hey, let's go, and it just kind of jump starts me. I think that's the problem. It's for us, it's not the doing, it's the getting there, it's the getting started. Yeah, it's the hard part. Yeah, because once we're doing this and I'm here, right, it's easy to keep going and whatever, and we have fun. But like I'm not going to lie, and now we're in a half a go, that was unpleasant and I didn't want to come. Like, I didn't want to come over here and do this because I just wanted to lay in my bed.
Speaker 1:That's valid. Well, those are the six horsemen. So, afternoon appointments, deciding on meals, interrupting during a hyper focused moment, dishes, deadlines that are super far away and projects with no deadlines, I think those are solid horsemen.
Speaker 2:I think they're all sort of related to the inner because, like the interrupting one is kind of like once you get going, getting started again, yeah. Right, and that's. I think that's part of the problem with all of these. Yeah, I think I already forget what the first couple ones were.
Speaker 1:Afternoon appointments oh, that's not Well, but it's. You don't want to, but it's, oh it's. It's similar, because you don't want to get started on something that then diverts your attention and then you forget about your appointment. Yeah, or you have that paralyzation of you have to do the whole thing of like, okay, my appointment's at four o'clock. That means I have to be ready by 330, which means X has to be done by three o'clock, which means and you start doing the whole like time reversal thing, and then you just get so overwhelmed and then, god forbid, you miss one of your markers and you start like spiral. Lord Almighty, not a good time, yeah. So, yeah, it's fun, it's a good time, but you know it is fun, rachel, what's fun. Songs on repeat, pete, it's always a really good time.
Speaker 2:Songs on what repeat.
Speaker 1:I don't know what we're working on. I'm out. I think it was repeat.
Speaker 2:What is your song on repeat? Okay, so Mostly I was thinking earlier today that we should just ditch this section, because it's always almost gonna be Air Church for me. But I did have a different one this week, because for Christmas we went to Texas and we went to.
Speaker 2:Fort Worth, texas. Specifically, and to those of you who are not in the like cowboy Stuff, fort Worth has the stockyards, which is like the historic place where they took cattle to be sold and auctioned and Interested and everything and so is this huge trading post kind of thing and In college we were kind of big fans of Casey Donahue ban, which is not. They're not appropriate. I wouldn't recommend them to people who don't make inappropriate things.
Speaker 2:They swear a lot and talk about Illegal things quite a bit. But Amazing anyway, they have a song called stockyards and it's about the fourth Fort Worth stockyards. So in college ten years ago we were listening to this song a lot and then we were there and so the whole time we were there I just kept singing this song in my head because I was at the stockyards. It was like oh, there's that song man.
Speaker 1:So I would allow us to get rid of this piece, except for the fact that I always do have a song on repeat, and also the fact that one of the things that I've heard from people that have listened to the podcast is they're like I didn't realize. I always have a song on repeat, yeah, and then again the Neurodivergent I'm sorry, non-neurodivergent people, so quote unquote normal people, they don't do this.
Speaker 2:My husband Corey listens to a new playlist every day on this body. That physically makes me ill, I know yeah listening to new things or watching new movies like is terrifying.
Speaker 1:So I think that this song is appropriate. I'm shockingly for those who listen and know that I don't always submit the most appropriate song.
Speaker 2:The band is not appropriate.
Speaker 1:It's called rainbow kitten surprise, but I think the song is, and it's called all's well that ends well, and it's just like a really nice song, because Sometimes it doesn't feel like all is going to end well. Yeah, so, and it's, I mean, and rainbow kitten surprise just has. It has the happy like brain tickle. That is great.
Speaker 2:So we, I think we initially talked about doing this. We haven't in the past is should we link these songs on Spotify for people? Yeah, we need to link them, and that was.
Speaker 1:That's a fun fact, that's a Kristen thing that I was supposed to be doing because this segment was my idea. I haven't been doing it so it's yeah, I need to step it up there, so it'll be fine Things that have made our life easier.
Speaker 2:Well for me again. We just got back from a trip for Christmas this is probably not I don't know what day this is this episode is gonna go live. We're kind of ahead of the mark. So you're probably listening to it and it's like way past Christmas. The day that we're recording it is just a few days after Christmas.
Speaker 2:So, um, mine, honestly, was my Adderall when we go on road trips. If I don't have my Adderall, I fall asleep while I drive, and and it's not necessarily because I'm tired, you know, like we've talked about people who are not ADHD and they take Adderall, they get high and they have all this energy. It's not that, it's that my brain is so bored that it just wants to shut down, because I'll be driving and 30 minutes in, I'm like I cannot keep my eyes open, and so we'll switch drivers so that I can take a nap and then, all of a sudden, I'm not tired anymore, like it's so with my Adderall, it just allows my, my brain to Be cool with driving. So I I drove a lot on our trip down to Texas, and so that's great, that was.
Speaker 2:It's nice to be helpful when driving and not making my husband do all of the driving.
Speaker 1:So that's valid. What's yours? Mine is very specific, but it's the Target method body wash, specifically the wind down Send I. So I don't like washing my hair because it takes too long. But I didn't has a lot of hair. Well, I it's purchased. This is purchased hair. Oh yeah, yeah, this is purchased long and it's long and pretty, but but I do love like Pre-bed showers are my favorite, because then it's it makes taking off my makeup, or just like washing my face, because I hate washing my face. Oh.
Speaker 2:I want to change mine. Oh, you can change it. Okay, you finish your story Okay so.
Speaker 1:But the target method body wash, the wind down, it's like has this really nice relaxing scent. And then I get ready for bed and I like can smell like that and I'm on nice and clean and warm, and then I dry your hair before bed. No, no, I don't wash my hair before bed, like so. My hair is up on my head, I like what I just do, a body shot. Oh, I see, and I use that, and on holiday I didn't have it and it made me physically sad.
Speaker 2:So what it? What is yours, okay, well, so I had to change mine because I got these things. They whoever was doing marketing for this is genius, because they're literally just like sweat bands, but they're these cloth Stretchy bands that go around your wrist. Yes, when you wash your face and you don't have the stuff dripping all the way down your arms, because I hate that and so I I got them and I was like this is they were like I don't know eight dollars for a pack of three.
Speaker 2:They weren't super expensive and literally they're not much more than just and they, I Used them. I was like this is kind of cool and you know I'd take them off and they'd be kind of wet and my wrist would be a little wet. But then one time I don't know where I was or if I forgot to use them. I think I forgot to put them on and I just realized how effective they were because I had water all down to my elbows. I hate that.
Speaker 1:Yeah, so I, if I am not washing my face in the shower, I am either like I'm not wearing anything on my upper body because it goes everywhere, Everywhere.
Speaker 2:I'll give you some of my.
Speaker 1:I have a set of three so I can do that. And then the other thing too is you have very beautiful skin, I have acne and I will also use a clean like, not single use, but like a. I only use it one time, but it's like a little face towel, and then that way I can. I'm not doing the facial commercials that we watched going up the Neutrogena the.
Speaker 1:Neutrogena splashing your face, which is completely stupid Then. So I'll use that, and so then I can purposely, you know, rinse my face appropriately, and then it's again not going everywhere. So it's a good. This could count as your ADHD moment of the week, if you would like that. You've just completely changed what your favorite thing is no, actually I haven't. You have one One, yes. What is it?
Speaker 2:Just yesterday. I needed Last yesterday too. Oh good, yesterday must have been a great day for me.
Speaker 2:Yesterday I needed to look something up on the computer and the thought came into my mind and I was sitting at the table with my daughter and exchange daughter and I got up to get my laptop and, by the time, literally did not even take a minute to get my laptop. I got up and got my laptop, sat back down and I could not remember what I needed to look up. And this happens to me all the time. All the time. Yeah, and you know people talk about just wait until you get older, and I get that. That's valid, that as you get older you do get more forgetful. But again, that does not that invalidates that I'm already there. I already forget things in the span of a split. It's like we have the attention span of a goldfish, it is so hard.
Speaker 1:It's so hard and sometimes it even is when we've taken medication, which is alarming.
Speaker 2:I know I mean medication helps, but it's not. It's not like A fix all yeah, yeah, for sure. What's yours?
Speaker 1:So mine was when I saw TikTok is just my lovely thing. I saw that thing about the in Iceland that in 2024, there's gonna be like this, apparently like 11 year phenomenal visibility.
Speaker 2:It's true, I'm a space nerd, and I could go on about the solar cycle.
Speaker 1:Yes. And so now I haven't gone into the nerd part of it, but I've taken on your not obsession but just excitement of it, cause we went and saw the meteor shower that one night. That was super fun. We saw the SpaceX creepy satellites going up that one night. That was fun too. It was terrifying, but also really cool. And then when I saw this thing about the Northern Lights in Iceland, I immediately sent it to Rachel and said we're gonna go to Iceland. I'm trying to speak this into existence, Corey and he doesn't listen to the podcast. Well, that's not my problem. And so I immediately sent it to Rachel and said hey, we're gonna go to Iceland and see these Northern Lights event thing. And she was like okay, kristen. And I was like no, I don't think you understand. I've made a spreadsheet and I sent it to you. She emailed me the spreadsheet.
Speaker 2:I did.
Speaker 1:And it has. So I think I've talked about it before. Whenever I make a spreadsheet for a trip, I always include the cost of the flights. What the flight? I already screenshoted the flight that we can take, and it's only $600. And it's a direct flight.
Speaker 2:First of all, that's impressive From where.
Speaker 1:Chicago, so we could drive to Chicago and then direct flight to Iceland six hours. We leave at 10 pm. Perfect, because then you take your drugs, you go to sleep, you land, you're awake and then you get to go do things.
Speaker 2:Okay, here's the thing about seeing the Northern Lights. So, guys, I'm kind of a space nerd and we have seen I have seen the Northern Lights twice here in Northern Iowa and what I think would be really nice about going to Iceland or Finland or Norway to see the Northern Lights is that if you just stay on your central time zone, sleeping schedule then you're awake in the night, where you see the Northern Lights.
Speaker 2:You have to be awake at night, so you had all these things on the to-do list of doing during the day and I think we need to just sleep during the day and see the Northern Lights at night.
Speaker 1:Okay, well, would you want to see the Northern Lights multiple nights in a row? Heck, yeah. Okay, that's fine.
Speaker 2:You need to see the Northern Lights, you would not be asking that question. That's a valid note.
Speaker 1:But it'll be fine. And then shout out Mel, mel might come with us. And if Mel comes with us, that cuts our other costs in a third.
Speaker 2:So how is this your ADHD moment of the week?
Speaker 1:Because I just like hyper fixated on it and I immediately I also midday may have been hyper fixating on this and I could not go and do anything else until I got all out of my brain.
Speaker 1:It's true, it was like a half an hour after you first sent me the screenshot that you sent this for, but then I was able to return to what I needed to do for the day, but if I hadn't gotten that out on the spreadsheet I would have been like, well, I'm gonna forget this, but what does this flight look like? But what is like? I need to share this, all of this information, to Rachel, and no offense to you, but like you can't drop everything and just allow me to share all my hyper fixations, so you get to go look at all the nice things that I did when you have a moment on the spreadsheet.
Speaker 2:Cause you have to get it out of your brain before it goes away.
Speaker 1:Out of the brain, like immediately, or it's gone it were gone, forever gone, but also it it's gonna take up my entire day Cause I'm just gonna spend. So that was my moment and I'm very excited. So we need to get your passport renewed. So that's on my to-do list for you.
Speaker 2:And that leads us into next week's episode, because we're gonna talk about body doubling and I really need Kristin to body double with me to go get my passport renewed.
Speaker 1:There's so many steps there are, but it's super easy. Honestly, I know I don't. Actually it's not easy. I just know how to do it. Cause I've done it, so it'll be good and I'm super excited Cause then I get to go place and do it.
Speaker 2:I really do need a passport. Cause have you been to?
Speaker 1:Europe. Yes, you have. Yes. But, your passport is expired.
Speaker 2:Yes, this stresses me out, because it was however many years ago. Oh wait, what's this year? This?
Speaker 1:year is 2023. We are going into 2024.
Speaker 2:It was 2013 that we went to Europe, so it's been 10 years since I've traveled out of the country. Was it your honeymoon? No, that's not true, it was. It was nine years. I went to Mexico then next year, but no well. So Okay, here we go. We're getting distracted.
Speaker 2:The story of my passport is that I, we got married in Mexico, and so I had a passport in my maiden name, and then, when we got back, cory was like you need to change your passport to your married name. And again it's like so many steps and it was.
Speaker 2:I just nope, I'm not gonna do this, cause he doesn't like to travel. So I didn't anticipate any reason of traveling. And then he got a job working with French suppliers through John Deere and when he got that job I said if you ever get to go to France, I am going with you, no matter what. And he was like yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever. Cause I was like obsessed with France and all the stuff. And so one day before Thanksgiving in 2013,.
Speaker 2:He comes home and he was like what day are we planning to, you know, come back from Thanksgiving or something? And I kind of told him he's like we're gonna have to change plans a little bit. And I was like why? And he was. I was at the kitchen table and he was at the kitchen sink and he didn't respond. He was quiet. And I was like are you going to France? And he is like yeah, and I thought that if you had changed your passport you could come with me. And I was like what? And so I immediately, hyperfixed it, found out that if you have travel plans within two weeks, you can drive to a passport office and get your passport the same day. So I drove to Chicago, got my passport. We had to have the tickets booked, we had to have the flights booked, that's hilarious.
Speaker 2:Or I even had a like legit passport. So that's my passport.
Speaker 1:I love it. Okay, well, I love you.
Speaker 2:Thanks for letting us be distracted. I love you, kristen, okay.
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